10 tips to help you deal with homesickness once you’ve moved to a new countryApril 29th 2019
Obviously, when you move to another country you’re not going to be with your friends and family, and often not around people who speak your home language. This will invariably make you feel insecure at times and you will crave the comfort of home and friends and family.
Here’s some top tips to help you settle in and get through the hard times:
- Try not to call home in the first few weeks and months as it encourages you to think more about home and prevents you from enjoying your present reality. Try to avoid being on social media or the internet and obsessing about what’s going on at home and focus on what is happening around your new location.
- Be okay with the fact that you will feel homesick. It is completely normal and will get better with time. When studying abroad the third month is usually the worst, and that’s November is you’re a student arriving in August or September. If moving further north then often the toughest time can be as the nights draw in and the trees and shrubs die and lose their vibrant colours.
- Bring a few things from home and try and make your new home somewhere that you genuinely enjoy so you feel happy about going home each day. A few mementos can offer a lot of comfort in your new home. This can be photos of loved ones, ornaments or even your favourite coffee mug.
- Make friends that make it feel like home. The culture shock can be significant but meet like-minded people and it will feel much easier. Do this from the first day that you arrive, even if you don’t speak the language. Just do it and see what happens. One day they may just smile and wave at you at that moment you need a friendly face.
- Find things and places locally that feel similar to what you have at home. For example, if you have many parks or nature at home then spend a lot of time in local parks in your new country. Equally, if you are used to busy high streets then take a trip and do some window shopping in the busiest street you can find.
- Make your favourite meals in your new home, learn to master recipes and share them with new people you meet. You’ll surprise yourself at how capable you are and how much your new friends enjoy trying new food.
- Try to avoid long distance relationships and take a break rather than trying to keep things going while you are away. It will only end up with resentment when one of you can’t live up to expectations.
- Treat yourself so you feel better, whether it’s shopping, a spa, or your favourite new restaurant. It will make you feel better, even if it’s only temporary. We all need a treat sometimes.
- Set priorities for your time in your new country. It may be completing a degree programme, getting recognised for doing great work in your company, or building a treehouse in your new garden.
- Plan a trip with your friends and family. Let them visit and show them those fantastic new places you’ve discovered or the new language you’re practicing on locals. It will surprise you how much it will boost your confidence to be able to chaperone them as their local tour guide and expert, and you’ll get to see those friendly faces you’ve missed so much.
Moving to a new country can be one of the most challenging things you will ever do, but it will enrich your mind and give you a confidence you didn’t have before. It will build your knowledge of the world and give you the opportunity to meet people you never would have done otherwise. It will broaden your mind and touch your soul. Moving abroad can even train us how to make positive decisions in our life.
Do it! You can always come back.
If you would like us to help you integrate and settle down in your new country then our global mobility coaches and local ambassadors can help. Contact us to discuss next steps to feeling settled in your new home.