Obviously, when you move to another country you’re not going to be with your friends and family, and often not around people who speak your home language. This will invariably make you feel insecure at times and you will crave the comfort of home and friends and family.
Here’s some top tips to help you settle in and get through the hard times:
- Try not to call home in the first few weeks and months as it encourages you to think more about home and prevents you from enjoying your present reality. Try to avoid being on social media or the internet and obsessing about what’s going on at home and focus on what is happening around your new location.
- Be okay with the fact that you will feel homesick. It is completely normal and will get better with time. When studying abroad the third month is usually the worst, and that’s November is you’re a student arriving in August or September. If moving further north then often the toughest time can be as the nights draw in and the trees and shrubs die and lose their vibrant colours.
- Bring a few things from home and try and make your new home somewhere that you genuinely enjoy so you feel happy about going home each day. A few mementos can offer a lot of comfort in your new home. This can be photos of loved ones, ornaments or even your favourite coffee mug.
- Make friends that make it feel like home. The culture shock can be significant but meet like-minded people and it will feel much easier. Do this from the first day that you arrive, even if you don’t speak the language. Just do it and see what happens. One day they may just smile and wave at you at that moment you need a friendly face.
- Find things and places locally that feel similar to what you have at home. For example, if you have many parks or nature at home then spend a lot of time in local parks in your new country. Equally, if you are used to busy high streets then take a trip and do some window shopping in the busiest street you can find.
- Make your favourite meals in your new home, learn to master recipes and share them with new people you meet. You’ll surprise yourself at how capable you are and how much your new friends enjoy trying new food.
- Try to avoid long distance relationships and take a break rather than trying to keep things going while you are away. It will only end up with resentment when one of you can’t live up to expectations.
- Treat yourself so you feel better, whether it’s shopping, a spa, or your favourite new restaurant. It will make you feel better, even if it’s only temporary. We all need a treat sometimes.
- Set priorities for your time in your new country. It may be completing a degree programme, getting recognised for doing great work in your company, or building a treehouse in your new garden.
- Plan a trip with your friends and family. Let them visit and show them those fantastic new places you’ve discovered or the new language you’re practicing on locals. It will surprise you how much it will boost your confidence to be able to chaperone them as their local tour guide and expert, and you’ll get to see those friendly faces you’ve missed so much.
Moving to a new country can be one of the most challenging things you will ever do, but it will enrich your mind and give you a confidence you didn’t have before. It will build your knowledge of the world and give you the opportunity to meet people you never would have done otherwise. It will broaden your mind and touch your soul. Moving abroad can even train us how to make positive decisions in our life.
Do it! You can always come back.
If you would like us to help you integrate and settle down in your new country then our global mobility coaches and local ambassadors can help. Contact us to discuss next steps to feeling settled in your new home.
The history of free men is never really written by chance but by choice; their choice!
Dwight D. Eisenhower
The most important thing in life is the freedom of choice.
Our brain is a toolbox and we have to use the tools available in order to live our lives to the full.
Decision makers know who they are and what they want and are self-determined. They have self-management and they implement their decisions in their daily lives and businesses. They stand by what they feel is right.
What do you believe in? If we understand what we need then we act on our beliefs in a more committed and dedicated way. Do you believe in safety and security? Then you will most likely prioritise living in a country where you can walk around at night alone or keep your front door unlocked. Do you believe in a healthy diet and local sourced fresh foods? Then you will most likely live close to nature in a country rich in fresh food sources. With so many options it is easy to become overwhelmed and find it difficult to make a decision as to where to go, or even to go at all.
Stimulus overflow, having too many options prevents us from being able to make effective decisions. It is a decision trap. There is so much choice and yet it is very difficult to know which one to opt for. Stress to be perform highly in our lives is another decision trap, and finally perfectionism also prevents action. Decision makers make decisions based on 80% of the information they need in order to make the decision. Therefore it is usually best to evaluate choice or next steps based on a ‘good enough for now’ approach rather than be concerned about the perfect solution that will make us perform the best.
The other problem when making decisions, including the one to move to a new country, is the force of habit. When old ways of making decisions are applied to new situations we end up making ineffective decisions and repeating patterns of behaviours that are sometimes negative. It takes a long time to change habits and ‘old habits die hard’ as they say. Big decisions such as moving to a new country can paralyse us and prevent us from taking action in something that may be extremely rewarding.
In the brain, the thalamus processes the information to the frontal cortex but under stress, the stress hormone, cortisol, prevents the thalamus from functioning effectively. The amygdala then steps in to help and overrides our systems and facilitates a ‘fight or flight’ response, and when it comes to making big decisions, we usually run away and avoid them. So we end up in this repeated stressful vicious circle of evaluation of options and considerations and before we know it, our whole life has gone by and we haven’t moved an inch.
To train your brain to work more effectively and avoid this block, decision makers constantly put themselves out of their comfort zone, changing things frequently and the brain works to make decisions without effort. We become so used to making small decisions that the big ones seem easier to evaluate and implement.
Therefore, changing your life and location can be a fantastic way to become ‘unblocked’ and make positive and effective decisions in your life, forever!
Our arrival on this earth as new-borns was something we didn’t get to decide; However, we can decide if our life is of significance; So make your decision; Today.
Do you need help in deciding where to go to next? Contact us to for a session that will help you to choose the right new location for yourself or your family.
Many countries are open to citizenships investment programs and this is a very good option for people who want to settle abroad. But naturally, there is a process for doing that that varies from country to country and we have listed some below.
Antigua & Barbuda Passport
This passport in the Caribbean is regarded highly by entrepreneurs, because of its simple requirements and multiple benefits that it offers. Acquiring a passport here will take between two and four months. This includes the relevant paperwork and the arrangement of the investment in areas such as real estate and national development. This is a great passport to have and a very popular choice among people in business. However it doesn’t offer access to the EU or U.K.
Austria’s passport (and citizenship) is considered one of the best in the world. One of the main advantages of an Austrian passport is it offers visa-free travel to over 170 countries, despite being comparatively expensive to obtain it remains one of the most popular in the world. Applicants for the Austrian passport are often forced to relinquish their current nationality in order to obtain the new Austrian citizenship.
Cyprus, considered by many to be one of the best places to live in the world, is also well-known hub for international trade and investment. Economical and political issues are quickly becoming a thing of the past and property prices are increasing steadily and political foundations are strengthening. To acquire a passport here it requires you to invest in property on the island and the process of acquiring a passport only takes only 3-4 months making it a very good choice. There is often an impressive yearly return through rental of the purchased properties of over 5% and much of the initial investment of €2 million can be released again within a relatively short period of time.
The benefit of the Cypriot passport is that it allows you to enjoy dual citizenship to many countries and doesn’t require you to reside in Cyprus. This passport is a passport that offers free travel to over 158 countries in the EU.
Bulgaria has become very popular for the investors because of the strategic position within the European Union that is ideal for people in business.
The German passport is considered as one of the top passports in the world because of the economic power and the business acumen associated with the country. There is no minimum residency needed, and German passport holders/ citizens have complete freedom to live as well as work anywhere in western Europe.
Dominican Republic Passport
The beautiful Caribbean island offers Citizenship by investment for people and families from the whole world. Dominica also has a low crime rate and is both economically and politically stable. The application will take from one to three months and this is a good option for many people and in most cases, your application will be accepted.
Malta’s passport is rated as one of the top ten highly valuable passports in the world. Citizenship gives you an opportunity to live as well as work in any country within the European Union. However one must be resident there for a period of time before you can apply for citizenship.
Grenada has an excellent citizenship by the investment program. The process is kept confidential, which is a huge benefit. All investments requires Government approval.
A Guatemalan passport is very popular among people in business because of the affordable living expenses, discreet banking as well as favourable tax-system that is offered. The cost to obtain a second passport here ranges from $60K – $100K in investment and this is relatively inexpensive considering the large advantages of growing your business that this location offers.
St Kitts & Nevis Passport
This passport requires just four months, and it normally depends on the type of the investment that is offered. It is an advantage for those seeking this passport to offer investment for 5 years minimum.
Where to get help
Whether or not you’re sure of where to get citizenship, the people here at Chepyng can offer support and advice. We can help you with the arrangements and take you gently through the process step by step. Our clients are always surprised at how easy it is, with the right people behind you.